I have done a lot of reading about the issues that plague China when it comes to abandonment of infant daughters and sons, and so many reasons play a part in her being left on Minzhou Road in Baotou, Inner Mongolia-we do not know what time of day or if she was left in a box or basket or how long she was there before being found. We can only make assumptions of what might have happened. What broughtI am a birthmother (and adoptive mother) and I cannot imagine what kind of courage and strength it takes to let go of someone you love as much as your children, hoping they find something you cannot provide, but knowing you leave them to an unknown fate. I can only think that this is an act that leaves a hole in your heart for the rest of your life. So I know as we come together with family and friends to celebrate with Shiloh, seven thousand miles away there are broken hearts who wonders what happened to the little baby girl born on November 11, 2007. Each year after Dakota's birthday, we have always let balloons go to our loved ones who have left before us and last year Dakota sent up the balloons for her little sister waiting in
Shiloh's birthparents to the point they had to make a decision to leave her, let her go, abandon her? Was it that Shiloh had been born with bilateral cleft lip and palate, never mind the heart and lung issues her birthparents must have been unaware of at the time? Was it the pressure to have one child…..one "healthy child", preferably male? Was it that they could never provide her with the medical care she would need to repair her lip and palate? Was she birthed to parents without a permit to have a child or to an unwed mother? Was she perhaps a second, third or even fourth daughter in a "one-child" policy country? So many things could have played a factor in the decision to leave her on November 14, 2007. The truth is that we may never know all the reasons or how things happened or what social and political pressures could cause birthparents to make such an incredibly hard decision. Some want to judge birthparents who could just up and abandon a child…..but I would like to find a way to celebrate the fact that Shiloh's birthparents must have placed Shiloh where she would be found…..where God knew eventually she would find her way to us.